3 Things You Want To Leave In 2014

3 Things You Want To Leave In 2014

The dash between your date of birth and date of death is yours for the making!

On Saturday I was blessed to attend an elegant, stunning lovely wedding...during the reception the MC said something that resonated within me....
He was speaking about the evening and he said, speaking to us, (paraphrasing) ...
"This is Your night too...You are here because the couple loves you and want you to celebrate their love....but you can enjoy the night and I challenge you to make tonight memorable! 

Make it memorable for you..."

Wonderful life advice that, if taken in fully, has the potential to shift you right into the Wonderful Now...

So as we get ready for 2015, here are a few ‘things’ you’ll want to leave in 2014.

1.      Leave self-doubt in 2014...self-doubt is defined as a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction about yourself. Van Gogh said If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” Leave self-doubt in 2014 and by all means PAINT!

2.      Leave indecision in 2014...indecision is defined as the inability to make a decision quickly. “Don't forget, when you refuse to make right choices, you have already chosen to live the wrong way! Indecision is a decision to live wrongly!” ~Israelmore Ayivor. Who would consciously choose to love wrongly? You do each time you choose to be paralyzed by indecision...make a decision and stick to it- review the choices with your vision to see which supports it, run it through your vision to determine which builds it, then get to it, now.

3.      Leave self-verbal abuse in 2014...That’s when you call yourself stupid because of a mistake you’ve made.  “I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.” ~ Lau Tzu . The greatest expression of love in your life is to treat yourself with compassion...talk to yourself the way you would speak to a little lost 4 year old girl who is seeking reconciliation with her mom.

As you begin now learning to release self-doubt, indecision and self-verbal abuse, you also open yourself to love, compassion, confidence and peace...

This is the foundation to a better life.
Catch yourself being unkind to yourself and reverse it that very moment...
Find yourself being kind to yourself and embrace this new way of being...

As you do so, you begin to love the way love was intended...and this makes you open to making life memorable!


How to Get Away With Miracles...

How to Get Away With Miracles...
A Simple Perspective Change...
"...it's a small paper but it actually establishes who you are and gives access to the rights and the privileges, and the obligations, of citizenship" - Archbishop Desmond Tutu, February 2005.

  3 things this blog will cover :

1.      Identifying the “miracle” in your life

2.      Locate your actual Success Permission Slip

3.      How to Get Away With Miracles

According to Wikipedia:  The right of every child to a name and nationality, and the responsibility of national governments to achieve this are contained in Articles 7 and 8 in the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child: "The child shall be registered immediately after birth and shall have the right from birth to a name, the right to acquire a nationality..." (CRC Article 7)

A birth certificate is a vital record that documents the birth of a child, but...what else does it represent? Get ready for a shift in perspective...

You are a miracle. Two people coming together at the right moment, one sperm and one egg connecting in perfection, 9 months of a hostile environment, hours of pain, screaming and ...Y-O-U...

Not only are you a miracle, but YOU are the miracle in your life! A miracle can be defined as “an act of God”... A Course In Miracles defines miracle as “as shift in perspective from fear to love”...

Do you see yourself as an act of love from God?
Do you feel the POWER of knowing you are a miracle?
Do you know that you have written proof?

I want you to consider this point: We were trained to seek permission. We had to ask for things at home, in school and throughout our lives...

  • ·         Can I have a piece of cake?
  • ·         Can I have a sleep over?
  • ·         Can we go to McDonalds?
  • ·         Can I try out for the baseball team?
  • ·         Can I marry your daughter?

Then we began looking for the “written permission/confirmation”...
·         Sign here and this car is yours...
·         Expect to receive your “offer letter” by Friday...
·         May I see your license and registration
·         Birth Certificate
What if you began to identify your birth certificate as your permission slip to succeed? That piece of paper says you are alive! That piece of paper says, welcome to the world...Listen, while you didn’t decide the birth date, you completely get to decide everything after that...and you do so with the choices and decisions you make moment by moment. If you have been looking for your “success permission slip”, it’s been with you from your 1st day on earth...It’s the right of every child...

the right to “be seen and heard”...

the right to be acknowledged...

the right to define success...

the right to achieve success...

the right to shift from fear to LOVE...

So what does this mean....begin now to live a new agreement :(recite this please)

“I am the miracle in my life. I even have proof which is my birth certificate. This document is in fact MY permission to succeed! I am no longer afraid and I am no longer seeking permission... I have permission to succeed!

Now I believe if you make the agreement that your aliveness is the permission to succeed, you will shift how you experience the world...
And, I am here, as your Coach, to help you navigate to
·         clarity of purpose
·         defining unique strengths, talents and abilities
·         written success map
·         accountability to assist you along the journey

You ready?...Of course you are...after all, you were born ready!


Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.~ James A. Baldwin

A mask is a covering for all or part of the face, worn to conceal one's identity… When we don’t know who we are, we are constantly wearing a mask. This is the essence of constantly walking a tightrope unsure of whether we are coming or going because there is neither clear destination nor decided way of being. Why do we wear a mask that, intuitively, we know is not our true home? Do you find it easier to wear the mask rather than reveal the truth? Do you know your truth? Are you plagued with the fear of rejection?

Take off the mask…In every single area of your life you are called to be your authentic self. You are purposed to build authentic relationships with others who had the courage to take off their mask, and you the life you truly seek can never be wonderfully lived as long as the mask is worn.

Take off the mask… and embrace the wonderful you. If you are wearing a mask of “perfection” take it off. No one even believes you anyway. We long to experience the richness of you, naked you, real you, beautiful you…and you, just like the other 7 Billion people on Earth, make mistakes. The first mistake in history didn’t ruin the Universe, and nor have or will any mistake you make. You will still be loved, appreciated and cared about whether you try to live in the facade of perfection, or embrace the exquisite bliss of imperfection. 

Take off the mask of “over compensation.  This is running you down mentally, spiritually and physically. Understand the accolades you seek will never be truly satisfied through external praise. Deep down you know this to be true because at the end of the day of running around for others, you still feel empty, unfulfilled and sad…

When others see you, they may not see the mask , but you always see it, feel it and experience it… Let the world share in the goodness of you, without the mask.  As James Baldwin so eloquently put it,  you cannot live within it anyway. Embrace the wonderful, authentic, pure, lovely you… when you do so, such begins the hero’s journey of putting down the mask and embracing what is true…


I'm a giraffe....I'm a giraffe....I'm a giraffe...

Don't you sometimes feel like a giraffe trapped in the body of a pug? Knowing you are this tall majestic being full of purpose and adventure... but somehow you're stuck seeing the world and experiencing the world from the view at 1 foot.... no more in 2013! Time to SOAR!

Today I posted a picture of a pug in a giraffe suit...just an image I found online.... you can see it on my facebook page : www.facebook.com/wowyourlifenow

On a usual basis (previous to late Feb) I averaged 35-50 views from my daily wow tips! I listened to a Facebook marketing webinar and with implementing 3 tips I went from 35 views on average to 150 !!! - And this tip has yielded me my biggest view to date 203!

This little picture prompted several things.... a couple of people saw it which prompted dialogue and the conclusion saying " I'm a giraffe!! I'm a giraffe, I'm a giraffe!!!
Often we feel trapped by our outer circumstances....and so our outer transforms or directs our inner.. which means we are tossed to and fro based on what's happening... where's the power in that?

You've got to choose to let your inner direct your outer....the pug is a cutie...lovable, huggable, cutie that gets the attention of others...If you goal is to get attention then be the pug.... but if your goal is to soar...to see beyond what is just in front of you, to move quickly, to eat from the 'high' fruit.... you can either be a pug dressed in a giraffe outfit or you can be a giraffe.....

I know it sounds simple but you have to decide your goal...then transform your inner to experience your outer... know you deserve it then take action to receive it...

I heard someone say..."If someone gives you a million dollars, you better hurry up and become a millionaire!!"....

I'm Valarie Johnson, Certified Life Coach....My mission: To use my enthusiasm and creativity to teach and inspire others to use their own unique strengths, talents and abilities to live the life of their dreams!                


Life’s big mystery… the THEY’s have been identified…

They get on my nerves…. They are always talking about me…. They said to do this! They won’t let me….I would do it but They stop me before I can even get started…. They always got something to say……They promised __________.

They never keep their promise…..
Breaking News: The famous THEY’s have been identified….
They…you know the THEY’s that have sabotaged your life for as long as you can remember…they are responsible for every bad thing that happened to you…

 Well, THEY have been identified, and boy are they clever…. This THEY tribe that seems to plague the entire world have finally been identified and their real names are about to be shared… Turns out THEY is an acronym….


Tricks for Halting the realization that Everything you notice, complain about or allow to block your personal evolution is really You…

You are THEY…I am THEY…THEY are TRICKS to keep us small…They are invented by you….- when negative they are tricks…. But did you know THEY were identical twins….meet THEY..
Treats such as thoughts, words and actions that Help you turn Every life experience (even those perceived as setbacks) into tools that thrust You into your amazing, powerful and successful destiny!

The common denominator: YOU!! –

You have the power! You have the choice, and now you have the awareness to choose where you desire to go and which THEY will accompany you…THEY set the course, you determine which THEY to follow….


Trick or Treat is a daily, minute by minute decision….



Cool LIFE Review

Write your life story in decade format... 0-10, 11-20, 20-30, 30-40...wherever you are in your age... then go one decade into the future....4 sentences a decade ...

During this decade my life was filled with _____.

I learned_____.

Because_____ happened to me I now feel_____.

When I think back to this time I feel________ (about it).


As you answer these comments, use them to see if you are really living or really limiting yourself...


Valarie Johnson

0-10: During this decade my life was filled with chaos and coping.

I learned how to survive and go into myself in order to survive

Because sexual abuse happened to me I now feel empowered to be an example of what happens happens FOR you, not to you provided your mindset transforms and you know God uses ALL things to elevate you toward his purpose for your life.

When I think back to this time I feel glad about it


11-20: During this decade my life was filled with change and plans and dreaming and setbacks that led to setups.

I learned the power of speaking something into existence and getting the heck out of what doesn’t work

Because leaving for college happened to me I now feel I can leave and go for it anytime!!

When I think back to this time I feel amazed that I even survived.


21-30: During this decade my life was filled with newness/defeat and incredible growth.

I learned what it means to have low self-esteem and how it has chased me all my life and all I had to do was turn and face it.

Because this attack of low self-esteem happened to me I now feel like a great champion of people to share with them how to defeat it

When I think back to this time I feel grateful for those amazing lows because the bounce back has been what I build my coaching practice on.


31-40: During this decade my life was filled with God’s presence and a newness or rebirth

I learned how God uses every experience in our lives to evolve us and when we accept this as truth we have a peace that surpasses all understanding

Because my growing relationship with God happened to me I now feel empowered, with healthy self-esteem, I feel like a thought leader in my circle of influence and I feel like every day is a gift to behold and LIVE!

When I think back to this time I feel ready for the next level.


41-50: During this decade my life was filled with manifestation of my biggest boldest desires

I learned to be led by God and to share my life with others.

Because the daily renewal (in Christ) I now feel like I deserve the mega success (spiritually, financially, physically and just overall in my life) I’m blessed with!


Before you read another self help book!

Reference (5 facts): http://www.onlinecollegesanduniversities.net/blog/2011/15-surprising-facts-about-the-self-help-industry/

And FYI self help includes iLiving App, Health Supplements, Health Juices ..... life coaches, nutrition specialist, fitness experts, psychologist, authors, network marketers and more...
Here are 6 facts about the marketing strategies, profits and success of the industry.

1- Women are the new target audience: All right, maybe this little fact isn't totally surprising. But the intensity with which the industry prowls for female consumers — and virtually ignores male consumers — is still remarkable. If you count prophets like Oprah as major promoters of the self-help industry — and you should — many American women have become insatiable when it comes to New Age spiritualism, snapping up books like Eat, Pray Love and all kinds of products designed to make them look and feel beautiful.

2- Americans spent $11 billion on self-help in 2008: Despite — or even as a cause of — the recession, the self-help industry's profits continue to swell. Marketdata Enterprises released an $11 billion estimate for what Americans spent on self-help books, coaching and similar products and services in 2008 alone.

3 -"Self-Help" dates back to 1859: The term self-help may have been coined in its modern form in 1859, when a Scottish social reformer published the first self-improvement book titled, "Self-Help." But the idea has been around much, much longer. Many ancient cultures in India, Greece, Rome and East Asia created better living guides and touted principles designed to improve ourselves, from the Stoics to Proverbs and beyond.

4 - Infomericals pull in the largest sales volume: The most profitable sector in the self-help industry is infomercials — yep, you're not the only one watching those fitness or wellness spots late at night.

5 - Over 13 million relationship self-help books were sold in 2007: Yes, someone is buying those ridiculously titled self-help books you laugh at to your friends. In fact, 13.5 million relationship self-help books were sold in 2007.

Now I'm sure you've probably read many self- help books last year and may have a book list for this year....How do you measure your ROI for the time, energy, effort and purchase price of this book?

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I'm Valarie Johnson, Certified Life Coach.... my mission is to use my enthusiasm and creativity.... to teach and inspire others...to use their own unique strengths, talents and abilities....to live the life of their dreams....

Coach Valj