Tuesday

3 Things You Want To Leave In 2014



3 Things You Want To Leave In 2014

The dash between your date of birth and date of death is yours for the making!

On Saturday I was blessed to attend an elegant, stunning lovely wedding...during the reception the MC said something that resonated within me....
He was speaking about the evening and he said, speaking to us, (paraphrasing) ...
"This is Your night too...You are here because the couple loves you and want you to celebrate their love....but you can enjoy the night and I challenge you to make tonight memorable! 

Make it memorable for you..."

Wonderful life advice that, if taken in fully, has the potential to shift you right into the Wonderful Now...

So as we get ready for 2015, here are a few ‘things’ you’ll want to leave in 2014.

1.      Leave self-doubt in 2014...self-doubt is defined as a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction about yourself. Van Gogh said If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” Leave self-doubt in 2014 and by all means PAINT!

2.      Leave indecision in 2014...indecision is defined as the inability to make a decision quickly. “Don't forget, when you refuse to make right choices, you have already chosen to live the wrong way! Indecision is a decision to live wrongly!” ~Israelmore Ayivor. Who would consciously choose to love wrongly? You do each time you choose to be paralyzed by indecision...make a decision and stick to it- review the choices with your vision to see which supports it, run it through your vision to determine which builds it, then get to it, now.

3.      Leave self-verbal abuse in 2014...That’s when you call yourself stupid because of a mistake you’ve made.  “I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.” ~ Lau Tzu . The greatest expression of love in your life is to treat yourself with compassion...talk to yourself the way you would speak to a little lost 4 year old girl who is seeking reconciliation with her mom.


As you begin now learning to release self-doubt, indecision and self-verbal abuse, you also open yourself to love, compassion, confidence and peace...

This is the foundation to a better life.
Catch yourself being unkind to yourself and reverse it that very moment...
Find yourself being kind to yourself and embrace this new way of being...

As you do so, you begin to love the way love was intended...and this makes you open to making life memorable!

Friday

How to Get Away With Miracles...



How to Get Away With Miracles...
A Simple Perspective Change...
"...it's a small paper but it actually establishes who you are and gives access to the rights and the privileges, and the obligations, of citizenship" - Archbishop Desmond Tutu, February 2005.

  3 things this blog will cover :

1.      Identifying the “miracle” in your life

2.      Locate your actual Success Permission Slip

3.      How to Get Away With Miracles

According to Wikipedia:  The right of every child to a name and nationality, and the responsibility of national governments to achieve this are contained in Articles 7 and 8 in the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child: "The child shall be registered immediately after birth and shall have the right from birth to a name, the right to acquire a nationality..." (CRC Article 7)

A birth certificate is a vital record that documents the birth of a child, but...what else does it represent? Get ready for a shift in perspective...

You are a miracle. Two people coming together at the right moment, one sperm and one egg connecting in perfection, 9 months of a hostile environment, hours of pain, screaming and ...Y-O-U...

Not only are you a miracle, but YOU are the miracle in your life! A miracle can be defined as “an act of God”... A Course In Miracles defines miracle as “as shift in perspective from fear to love”...

Do you see yourself as an act of love from God?
Do you feel the POWER of knowing you are a miracle?
Do you know that you have written proof?

I want you to consider this point: We were trained to seek permission. We had to ask for things at home, in school and throughout our lives...

  • ·         Can I have a piece of cake?
  • ·         Can I have a sleep over?
  • ·         Can we go to McDonalds?
  • ·         Can I try out for the baseball team?
  • ·         Can I marry your daughter?


Then we began looking for the “written permission/confirmation”...
·         Sign here and this car is yours...
·         Expect to receive your “offer letter” by Friday...
·         May I see your license and registration
·         Birth Certificate
What if you began to identify your birth certificate as your permission slip to succeed? That piece of paper says you are alive! That piece of paper says, welcome to the world...Listen, while you didn’t decide the birth date, you completely get to decide everything after that...and you do so with the choices and decisions you make moment by moment. If you have been looking for your “success permission slip”, it’s been with you from your 1st day on earth...It’s the right of every child...

the right to “be seen and heard”...

the right to be acknowledged...

the right to define success...

the right to achieve success...

the right to shift from fear to LOVE...

So what does this mean....begin now to live a new agreement :(recite this please)

“I am the miracle in my life. I even have proof which is my birth certificate. This document is in fact MY permission to succeed! I am no longer afraid and I am no longer seeking permission... I have permission to succeed!

Now I believe if you make the agreement that your aliveness is the permission to succeed, you will shift how you experience the world...
And, I am here, as your Coach, to help you navigate to
·         clarity of purpose
·         defining unique strengths, talents and abilities
·         written success map
·         accountability to assist you along the journey

You ready?...Of course you are...after all, you were born ready!

Sunday

Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.~ James A. Baldwin


A mask is a covering for all or part of the face, worn to conceal one's identity… When we don’t know who we are, we are constantly wearing a mask. This is the essence of constantly walking a tightrope unsure of whether we are coming or going because there is neither clear destination nor decided way of being. Why do we wear a mask that, intuitively, we know is not our true home? Do you find it easier to wear the mask rather than reveal the truth? Do you know your truth? Are you plagued with the fear of rejection?

Take off the mask…In every single area of your life you are called to be your authentic self. You are purposed to build authentic relationships with others who had the courage to take off their mask, and you the life you truly seek can never be wonderfully lived as long as the mask is worn.

Take off the mask… and embrace the wonderful you. If you are wearing a mask of “perfection” take it off. No one even believes you anyway. We long to experience the richness of you, naked you, real you, beautiful you…and you, just like the other 7 Billion people on Earth, make mistakes. The first mistake in history didn’t ruin the Universe, and nor have or will any mistake you make. You will still be loved, appreciated and cared about whether you try to live in the facade of perfection, or embrace the exquisite bliss of imperfection. 

Take off the mask of “over compensation.  This is running you down mentally, spiritually and physically. Understand the accolades you seek will never be truly satisfied through external praise. Deep down you know this to be true because at the end of the day of running around for others, you still feel empty, unfulfilled and sad…

When others see you, they may not see the mask , but you always see it, feel it and experience it… Let the world share in the goodness of you, without the mask.  As James Baldwin so eloquently put it,  you cannot live within it anyway. Embrace the wonderful, authentic, pure, lovely you… when you do so, such begins the hero’s journey of putting down the mask and embracing what is true…

Coach Valj

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